Tag: Motivation

19 Mar

The Motivating Side of Self-Doubt

I consider myself a positive person and am always thinking optimistically about the future. At the same time, however, I am filled with a constant level of self-doubt.

Recently, I went to the doctor to get a check-up. It was my first check-up in over eight years. My prognosis was perfect, to which the doctor said,

“Of course it is, you exercise every day, do yoga, meditate, eat a vegetarian diet, and all around take really good care of your self. Why would you doubt your health?”

I still pushed him to tell me what more I could do, because something inside me didn’t allow me to believe I’m doing the best I could with my health. I know I could eat a lot more greens than I do, eat more fruits, exercise more…enter my self-doubt.

This self-doubt extends to everything in my life. I don’t think I’m doing enough for my business to grow it as fast as I want, even if I actually am. I don’t think I’m doing enough to keep my marriage healthy and happy, even if I actually am. I don’t think I’m doing enough to connect with close friends and family, even if I actually am…and on and on.

So where does it comes from?

Part of being an entrepreneur is to perpetually be at the beginning stages of new learning curves, and thus I think I’ve trained myself to always think I’m a beginner and there is always room for improvement. In addition, as the leader of a team, verses an employee, I hand out praise to others, but rarely does praise come back to me. It’s just the nature of the dynamic between a boss and employee. But couple the lack of external acknowledgment, with me always thinking I’m a beginner, and now I can start to see why I’m living in a state of self-doubt.

But I differ from many other people who live in the same self-doubt world, because for me, the self-doubt is a motivator, not a limiter. I use my self-doubt to challenge myself to do five extra push-ups and make one extra sales call because, in my mind, that’s what it takes to move past the beginner stage of the learning curve.

When it comes to marketing and selling, I’m happy to be known as an expert, but when it comes to self-growth, I want to constantly feel like I’m an amateur playing in the expert league.

04 Aug

Extremely Humbling Experience at #SAtechBOS

A-Ha Moments, Speaking No Comments by Tom Krieglstein

Over the past seven years, I’ve spoken at a lot of schools with our Dance Floor Theory Student Leadership Training program. I’ve always considered myself more of a theory/practice type of speaker than motivational/inspirational. It’s not that I don’t value the motivational/inspirational type talks, it’s just that every time I tried to go down that road, it didn’t feel natural to me. So I stuck with being the “smart” speaker.

Yesterday, however, at the closing keynote for the #SAtechBOS conference, I decided to try on a new hat and see what it would be like to mix more motivation/inspiration into a “smart” talk. The talk was brand new and one I’d never done before which made me extra nervous. It was in front of a lot of people I truly respect and was streaming live on the internet to anyone who wanted to watch. I also didn’t finish the slides until 2am the morning of the talk because I kept wanting to shift things around. Needless to say, I was nervous.

In the end, the talk came together in a way that totally blew me away and based on the comments that filled up the Twitter Backchannel (see below), I walked away from the conference totally humbled by the impact the talk had on the group. I’ll remember this talk for a long time to come.

P.S. The video of the talk should soon be posted online at which time I’ll also share the slides.

#satechBOS Officially crying in this keynote @ . Going home tonight to thank both my mentor and my mentee for inspiring me.
@ColleenCentral
Colleen Bunn

If you’re not inspired or reenergized after listening to @, check your pulse. #satechBOS
@timstjohn
Tim St. John

Everyone has some brain leakin’ out of their ears…@ is dropping epic knowledge / asking big questions. #satechBOS
@EricStoller
Eric Stoller



How many people's eyes just got watery in the room or on the live stream? Mine did! Thanks for inspiring us, @ #satechbos

I'm not big on keynotes, but @ gave a good, thought-provoking, and well-presented talk. #satechBOS
@istudentaffairs
StudentAffairs.com

@ the best keynote I have ever had the privilege of hearing! Thank you. #SAtechBOS
@RichFox13
Richard Fox

That is what an authentic, genuine, engaging, inspiring speaker is like! --> @ #satechbos
@JoeSabado
Joe Sabado

@ That was an amazing keynote. Thanks so much for inspiring all of us. #satechBOS
@ChrisCFaulkner
Chris Faulkner

It was an honor to meet @, and another to hear him speak! #authentic #awesome #satechBOS
@walker_desiree
Desiree Walker

Watched @ bring down the house as #saTechBOS's final speaker. He gave me inspiration for a new blog post.
@sportsgirlkat
Kat Hasenauer

.@ Officially the most moving and empowering speaker I have ever heard! #satechbos http://t.co/7IGODjCb
@Thomas_A_Kelley
Thomas A. Kelley

@ Loved @ talk. 1st time I realized all my ed experiences - K-12, college - led me here.
@IlySaw
Ilyana Sawka

17 Jul

From 2008 to 2012: Soul Warming Email [IMAGE]

I’ve been doing Dance Floor Theory Leadership Trainings since 2004, which is a long time and a lot of students. Any good speaker knows the feeling of getting off stage to a whirlwind of buzzing students excited to talk. Many students energetically say they will follow up later, but sadly most don’t. Every so often, however, an email comes in, like the one above, that warms my soul. I spoke to her group 4 years ago and to know what I said, and how she received it, still sticks with her today. That’s a special moment for me. It’s an honor for her to let me be a part of her journey.

11 Apr

I Dare You To Watch This Every Morning [VIDEO]

Inspiration, Videos 4 Comments by Tom Krieglstein

“Here’s the thing that makes life so interesting. The theory of evolution claims that “only the strong shall survive”. Maybe so, maybe so.

But the theory of competition says, “just because they’re the strong doesn’t mean they can’t get their asses kicked”.

That’s right. See, what every long shot, come from behind, underdog will tell ya is this: the other guy may in fact be the favorite, the odds may be stacked against you. Fair enough. But what the odds don’t know is, this isn’t a math test. This is a completely different kind of test. One where passion, has a funny way of trumping logic.

So before you step up to the starting line, before the whistle blows, and the clocks start ticking just remember: out here the results don’t always add up. No matter what the stats may say and the experts may think and the commentators may have predicted, when the race is on, all bets are off.

Don’t be surprised be if someone decides to flip the script and take a pass on yelling “Uncle”. And then suddenly as the old saying goes, “WE’VE GOT OURSELVES A GAME”.”


21 Dec

How Bad Do You Want It? [VIDEO]

Inspiration, Leadership, Videos No Comments by Tom Krieglstein

“When you get to the point where all you want to do is be successful as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.”

29 Aug

Speaking Tip/Trick #7 – The Motivation Test

Speaking Tips 2 Comments by Tom Krieglstein

Any decent speaker should be able to motivate a group of people during his/her program so they leave feeling excited and motivated. It’s a lot harder for a speaker to be able to give an audience not just motivation, but also tangible content that they will be able to turn around and use to keep the motivation going.

Curious to know what type of speaker you are? Here’s a quick test…

At the end of your training a lot of people will probably come up to you and tell you positive words about the talk and how it inspired them. Before they leave, quickly ask them, “Thanks, that’s really nice of you to say. What specifically did you like the most?”

From here, you’ll get one of two answers…

The first response will be something like, “Oh, I dunno, the whole thing! It was all just amazing!!!”

The second response will be something where they repeat back to you some of the content or tell you how they are going to use the content in their life.

The first response will tell you that you just motivated them and the motivation will most likely disappear in a couple days. The second response will tell you that you not only motivated them, but you also gave them tangible content to keep the motivation going. When you get the second response, that’s when you know you won.

At your next speech, I dare you to try this experiment out. The results can be an eye opening moment for you and your speaking career.


Like this one? Check out the rest of my speaking tips.

Looking for a speaking/presentation/keynote coach for your career, job, or upcoming presentation? Email me > tom [at] swiftkickonline [dot] com.

19 Aug

Laying Tracks for Motivated Trains

Three quick stories, one important point.

Story #1:
Last week, before my soccer match, I watched a little league softball game on the field next to us. Surrounding the field was a collection of parents multitasking between the game, their blackberries, and babysitting their, even younger, offspring. One parent in particular was having a hard time keeping her little one under control. Her kid kept racing up and down the sidelines while mimicking a train. He put his hand in the air, pumped his fist, and as he passed us let out a loud, “Choo Choo!” Then 30 seconds later he’d come steamrolling back. The kid clearly had extra energy and needed to let it out. The parent, and most parents would agree, didn’t try and stop him from running, instead she calming kept looking a few yards ahead to clear away any dangers that might be in his way. The little kid was motivated to run, so instead of trying to stop him, the parent took on the role of laying tracks for him to keep running.

Story #2:
My brother and I were playing Frisbee Golf and he lodged his frisbee square in the middle of a mud pit. I quickly looked around for a large stick and without much thinking took two steps into the mud pit, reached out my arm, and started to retrieve his frisbee for him. With my foot half covered in mud, my brother said, “never get in the way of a motivated individual.”

Story #3:
At this year’s ACPA conference in Philadelphia, the conference organizers hosted a special social media strategy session with several individuals to talk about how they could better leverage social media for the ACPA community. Throughout the session it was clear that someone needed to step up and lead the charge. Looking around the room, there were many capable individuals, but the question was who was the most motivated and ready? Kathy Petras raised her hand and agreed to lead the group. Since then,  she has been a wonderful leader, and had we had enough data to work with, probably could have predicted so because Kathy was already a trending leader in the community. She was a newer associate that recently took on a leadership position in another committee as well as led an ed session for the first time this year. If we were to tally up her actions, we would’ve seen she was a trending leader and was hunting for her next level of growth. In this case, leading the social media adoption committee was a perfect fit for her.

Point:
Every community can be broken up into varying levels of engagement. Based on a specific member’s engagement level, they want to be treated in different ways. A fully involved leader wants to be treated in a totally different way than someone lurking on the edge of the wall. An individual’s engagement level is constantly shifting though, with a hope of always trending towards more involvement. It’s up to the leaders of the community to thus recognize the individual engagement level of each member, and also to recognize how an individual is trending. Find out who the Kathy is of your community that is trending towards being a leader, then lay down tracks for her to continue to be great, because the worst thing a leader can do is get in the way of a motivated train.

11 Nov

Engagement Based Leadership

Most student club advisors will tell you that club engagement goes through waves; some years are rockstars and others are duds. Almost every club starts the year with aspirations of rockstardom, but within a couple weeks, the excitement and motivation of the leadership team fades, and thus, the entire club activity withers. In pondering this problem, I’ve been talking more and more about an idea called engagement-based leadership (EBL), meaning that leadership is not a one-time elected thing, but rather an ongoing, ever-changing position rewarded based on engagement. Before I talk more about EBL, first let’s dissect the problem of why student leaders fade within a month of being elected.

Several years ago, I walked the second day of a 2-Day Avon Walk For Breast Cancer with my wife and some friends. Anyone who’s ever done the walk knows how grueling it is. Blisters alone are painful, but the average Avon walker can expect to endure multiple layers of blisters building up until his or her entire foot becomes one big blister. It’s disgusting and painful and makes the second day of the walk intense. The organizers know that completion of the walk is extremely difficult without a continuous onslaught of support from spectators and volunteers. That’s why for every walker, they commit to line the entire path with at least five cheerers. On the last leg of the walk, my feet blistered up and shot a pain through my body with each step. Mentally and physically I was ready to quit. My motivation was gone. But then, as we turned the corner, there was a smiling old lady sitting in a wheel chair, wearing a cap to cover her bald head and holding a sign that read, “I’m why you’re walking, Thank you.” Like a bolt of electricity, my whole body reenergized and plowed toward the finish line. Imagine if the only rewards for walking the race were in the beginning when they pumped us up, and at the end when we crossed the finish line? The attrition rates would be horrendous!

Like the Avon walk, student leaders begin the year excited and motivated about the idea of the journey they’re about to start. They might have just attended an award ceremony where the outgoing leaders were showered in praise for the hard work they did throughout the year, which further motivates the incoming leaders. So much support. So much praise. And then, let’s say within a month or so, reality sets in. The real work starts, and the “blisters” of being a leader build up. But unlike the Avon walk, with a motivational checkpoint waiting for you at every street corner, the next motivational checkpoint for student leaders most likely won’t be for another six months, during their outgoing ceremony when they are praised for all the hard work they did throughout the year. Thus, within the first couple months of being a leader, the excitement and motivation fade and the attrition rates go up. It should be noted that some leaders drop off for other reasons, such as class overload, work overload, or personal issues.

What’s a solution look like?

As the advisor, you could make sure to set up a collection of individual checkpoints for your leaders throughout the year, so you make sure they stay excited and motivated. At bare minimum, let’s say you create checkpoints that happen once per week for ten minutes where you praise them for the work they are doing and remind them of the bigger picture of student engagement. Just one leader multiplied out for eight months, that’s just under five hours of your time. Now expand that to 50-300 leaders. If you don’t think you have a life now…

Enter EBL. The goal is still the same, keep the leaders motivated on an ongoing basis so they can survive through the typical student leader burnout, but in EBL, the tactics change. In EBL, you are moving the motivational checkpoints away from you as the admin/advisor and pushing it to the students. EBL builds in a peer-to-peer motivational system that is ongoing and ever present. Now it doesn’t matter if you have 50 or 5000 student leaders. Actually, the more leaders you have, the better.

How does it work?

It’s no secret I’m a fan of Whole Foods (also known as Whole Paycheck). Because there’s a WF on my way home from work, I tend to frequently stop in and grab a few items. Over time, I realized that WF is one of the top five places I visit the most every week, which makes me a pretty darn engaged customer. In fact, WF should probably be rewarding me for being so engaged. Enter FourSquare, Yelp, and SCVNGR. For those unfamiliar with these three sites, they are, simply stated, mobile check-in tools. I can be anywhere in NY and check in that I am there via my mobile phone. Nothing special yet, until you start to receive prizes, titles, and recognition for checking in more often. For a while, I was crowned the Mayor of our WF because I was the most engaged customer. But then my speaking travel schedule picked up and for several months I disappeared and rightfully so, someone else took over as Mayor.

EBL rewards students based on their engagement. The more engagement “points” you score, the more rewards, titles, and recognition you receive. To repeat from above, leadership is not a one-time yearly elected thing, but rather an ongoing, ever-changing position that is rewarded based on engagement.

There certainly is much more to debate and discuss here, but consider this post only a surface-level introduction to the idea. I’m not interested in getting into the weeds just yet, so I purposefully left out many of the operational details.

The Value of EBL?

Admin/Advisor – Student Leader attrition rates will drop, which means student leaders will stick around longer and be more active in their clubs. The increased activity will make clubs more successful throughout the year. The admin/advisor also won’t have to do as much individual student leader motivational check-ins.

Student Leaders – Like a video game, the rewards and benefits built into EBL will keep the student leaders motivated throughout the entire year on an ongoing basis. They are going to have more fun because their clubs are more active and engaged. They also won’t feel as much guilt about dropping off the map and letting the club die due to some personal issues they didn’t plan for ahead of time. A new leader with the most engagement points is ready to step up to Mayorship.

Students – They will have a larger group of active clubs to join. After joining they don’t have to rely on a disengaged elected leader to keep the group going. Leadership is open to anyone who wants it and is willing to work for it.

Wrap Up

EBL is a blend of game theory and student engagement theory. Every student affairs professional knows the pains of deadbeat leaders and thus dead groups. EBL is a new paradigm in thinking about leadership. If we want to break out of the normal student engagement levels of 16-40%, we have to think differently. The ideas, tactics, and tech tools we use have to embody this new way of thinking. It’s not just about making paperwork more efficient, that’s just extracting more energy from the resources you already know exists. It’s about exploring new potential energy that is sitting dormant in the 60-84% of the rest of your student body, that’s a massive untapped pool of energy.

09 Sep

Redefining Student Engagement Through the Fogg Behavior Model (Part 1)

BJ Fogg created the Fogg Behavior Model (FBM) through his work at the Persuasive Technology Lab at Stanford University. The FBM states…

"Three elements must converge at the same moment for a behavior to occur: Motivation, Ability, and Trigger. When a behavior does not occur, at least one of those three elements is missing."

Fogg goes on to break down the three elements even further…

The FBM deals mostly with online software user behavior, but with a little twist, it can also apply to engaging students on campus.

Kevin, of Red Rover, created the Student Motivation Pyramid (SMP) to better understand the different student motivations. The SMP states…

"Students can be generally divided into three core engagement motivators: Comfort, Connection, and Contribution. Comfort is defined as a motivation for lowest common denominator connections on an individual level (e.g. you like sports, I like sports, let's be friends at orientation). Connection is defined as a motivation to join relevant interest groups and act together toward a common outcome (e.g. German Club, Chess Club, Magic Club). Contribution is defined as a motivation to give back to the campus by consciously leading and supporting the community (e.g. Student Leaders)."

In terms of student engagement, applying (trigger) the wrong motivation (comfort/connection/contribution) at the wrong time (ability) will have little or no effect. Such a simple sentence to write, but opens up a spider web of questions: 

  • How can we know when is a good time to apply a trigger?
  • How can we identify what motivates an individual student? 
  • How can we know what trigger to apply? 

The good news is answers are available and technology provides the helping hand. In Part 2 I'll dig further into each question to provide an overview of how campuses can better engage their students through these models.