Last night I was running an activity that I’ve done hundreds of times for other groups, but for some reason it didn’t have the same pop that it normally has. After thinking about it some more, I think the reason it lacked the pop was because I’m a peer with the members in the group, instead of being an outside expert. With that said, I think the peer vs expert dynamic caused two issues which led to the lack of a pop…
Issue 1 – Jesus wasn’t Respected in Jerusalem
No, I’m not comparing myself to Jesus, it’s just a saying that even someone as respectable as Jesus wasn’t respected in his home town because he was just one of them vs Jesus. The group didn’t take the activity serioulsy and were loose with the rules and the value because it was coming from a peer verses an outside expert.
Issue 2 – Playing the Part
Because the people in this group were my peers, I didn’t act like I was the expert, instead I acted like a peer. I acted differently last night than when a school pays me to come in and do similar activities. I gave in to the fact that I was their peer, instead of an expert.
Put both issues together, and you can see how it quickly turns into a downward spiral between me not acting like an expert, them not treating me like an expert, me recognizing I’m not being treated like an expert, thus me not acting like one, and so on.
If I could do it over again, I would have gone into the activity with the same level of expertise as I do for any other program instead of defaulting to accepting I’m just one of the group.