Watching Us Grow

Sadly I don’t remember where I read this, but the concept I read was that people are more apt to recognize changes in themselves than they are in others. Seems intuitive enough to say that since I live, breathe, and sleep in my body, I’m more likely to notice my physical and mental shifts over time compared to anyone else.

Let me bringing this concept into a real world…

ACbert and I have been together for 10 years. We met when she was 18 and I was 19. Needless to say, the physical and mental shifts we both have gone through over the past 10 years have been ridiculous. I look back at my 19 year old self and laugh. I slicked my highlighted hair back (with highlights), wore jewelry, and thought “making money” was my passion. Goodness how I’ve changed and changed A LOT. It’s easy for me to see my changes. But, unless I consciously pause to notice, and enjoy it, I forget that ACbert has changed just as much as me.

For example, over the weekend we went out “Halloweening” with friends. At one point, I looked over at ACbert as she was trying a drink she’d never had before and her face had a beautiful “first-day-of-school” kind of look to it. She has changed and grown a thousand times over, but in that moment, I was actually getting to see it happen in real time. I paused to appreciate how amazing it was to see. She was discovery something new. She was growing. It was perfect, it made me love her more, and it made me want to make sure to keep pushing ourselves to have a 1000 more moments like that.